It’s funny, there are so many things in life; whether it’s a feeling, something that has happened, something that is on our mind, our fears, our deepest thoughts…. that we just don’t want to talk about. Because, well, let’s be honest – it’s just easier to squash those feelings, bury them deep and pretend they aren’t there or believe that we are ‘dealing’ with them on our own.
Well, I have news for you girlfriend…that isn’t doing you any kind of justice.
The thing is, talking about our problems, feelings and worries… is something that isn’t widely condoned. Especially in some countries, it is embedded into the culture to keep things to yourself, bury them, sweep them under the rug (you get my gist). It’s something that is instilled from us as children. But, to be quite frank…THIS. ISN’T. RIGHT. It is quite the contrary, it is SO important to voice things. There’s no shame in talking, letting things out and working through them.
Let’s take an example; a fear / worry / something stressing you out…sometimes just saying it out loud, can help squash it and either make you realise that your mind was getting carried away and turning it into a much bigger thing than it actually is, or that it’s just plain silly, or that it is something out of your control that worrying about doesn’t solve.
I used to think this way, I used to stew on things and keep them to myself and create these big elaborate stories and allow my mind to go off on the biggest tangent. Which, only made it worse. It wasn’t until I found my tribe, my safety net, the people I know I can turn to no matter what – even with the most ‘ridiculous’ thought that is causing me anxiety and know I won’t be judged,
I know it isn’t that easy. And I know it’s scary to start voicing what’s going on in your head. But believe in YOU and know that the people that love and respect you won’t judge you for your thoughts. You’ll find the opposite, they will shower you in love and help you find reason. And if, you perhaps still don’t quite feel comfortable talking to others, write it down. Pop down all your craziest worries and thoughts in a journal. And then write down what the worst possible scenario for each one is…and you may find that it’s not that bad at all. And, I promise you, by just getting these thoughts out of your mind, it will be the biggest weight off your shoulders.
Keep your chin up, don’t beat yourself up about whatever’s going on in your head. Voice those thoughts and just know that you will be alright.